q. Write it down and/or talk it out.

Sometimes this can be an important and even necessary component of letting go and forgiving. Sometimes, you just have to tell your story and some times you need someone to listen. For some this can take place through journal writing, or writing something down and then burning it or burying it. Once in a while it is helpful to write a letter…but be careful, writing and then sending a letter can make matters worse. If you need to send it, give it some time and perhaps share it with a good friend that will give you good advice first. Consider the lessons from Love Is Letting Go of Fear.
Sometimes you need to tell and have someone listen, just remember, the goal here it to help you let it go. Telling it over and over again is not letting go.

Sometimes, some things need to be reported. When someone is or may be in danger or when a criminal act has occurred, these things need to be reported to appropriate authorities…then leave it in their hands and let it go.

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p. Let go and forgive. Teach your children, by example, to do the same.

p. Let go and forgive. Teach your children, by example, to do the same.
Many years ago I taught a class to adults with disabilities. The class would last about six weeks and would be for, on average, about 10 hours a week. We developed a very close rapport in almost all classes. They had all kinds of disabilities, some physical and some psychological and sometimes a combination of both. (It can be difficult to experience chronic physical disability and/or pain without also experiencing some depression or other emotional and psychological difficulties.) Now, what I’m about to share may sound a little silly, but it was actually very powerful, almost every time. This would be done around the beginning of the third week.I would be out of the class and my partner would be with the group talking. We would always sit at tables in a circle for better communication between members of the group. At a certain point I would come into the room with a back pack on. It would be fairly large and obviously heavy. Usually someone in the class would ask me a question and if they asked about the backpack, I would ignore the question, but when they asked how I was feeling I would tell them that I wasn’t feeling very well and that I was feeling a very heavy burden. I may say that I’m sore, or have a back ach and/or headache. Eventually, and invariably, someone would quite emphatically tell me to take the stupid backpack off. I would take the pack off, still holding it in my arms and open it up. One at a time I would take large rocks out of the bag and talk about something that had happened in my life, sometime when I had been wronged by friends, family, employers or whatever. They were always genuine events. Each time after talked about it, I would put the rock down on the table in front of me, with a thud. After the bag was empty, we would talk about the cost to us of carrying a grudge or hurt feelings. We would talk about some of the concepts from Love is Letting Go of Fear and about the benefits of forgiving and letting go. Forgiving and letting go, do not mean that you ever need to put yourself again in a situation where you will be hurt, or that others do not need to be accountable for their actions. Bad things happen; some things need to be reported to appropriate officials, there are some people that we can not allow to hurt us or others we care about any more. Letting go does mean that you love yourself and no longer carry the burden around, it means that we let go of judging why, because we just don’t know. It also means that we forgive ourselves and move on without the excess baggage from the past.

o. Manage Finances

o. LIve within your means, spend less than you make. Understand the value of a penny. Teach your children to do the same.