For our purposes I will define stress as: Both a physiological and emotional state caused by the pressure and/or anxiety which can result from the difference or dissonance between what a person has control over and their expectations of control OR a state of doubt and/or insecurity and/or cognitive dissonance OR for those with low resilience and/or efficacy the state caused by unpredictability. It can also include the disequilibrium caused by health related issues.
Tuesday, December 16, 2008
1. Stress is both a physiological and emotional state.
1. Stress is both a physiological and emotional state. In order to reduce the feelings of stress, there must be both a physiological and emotional change.
26 comments:
stinnett
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Learning about stess and what causes it is a key step in reducing the effects of stress. An indiviual also needs to recognize how stress manifests in their own lives, whether it's tension in your shoulders or the urge to yell.
Over the past several years of running a daycare in my home and taking care of my three children as a single parent, I felt that I worked "well" while under stress. I recently found that what I managed to do was tolerate stress well.
A Lamaze class I took, while pregnant with my first child, taught me to breathe in through my nose and out through my mouth. That technique alone helped get me through what seemed like days of hard labor. Focus on something else, and breathe, in through the nose and out through the mouth. I would repeat this to myself, ant it worked.
So, over the years, when I get stressed I would do this, and it worked again. I could get work done, even though I was in the middle of a stressful time.
However, what I didn't realize was that other areas of my life were suffering while I was focused on the actual matter at hand.
I now try to stop stress before it happens by keeping a joyful and playful attitude. The kids and I will sing short and silly, but fun songs and liven up in a positive manner. Or, we simply don't worry about things not being perfect, like being exactly on time for lunch, or naptime. It's ok if we're not sleepy, we don't have to fall asleep at naptime, as long as we're quiet so others who want to sleep, can sleep.
Who knows where to download XRumer 5.0 Palladium? Help, please. All recommend this program to effectively advertise on the Internet, this is the best program!
Once the physical needs are met then the social interaction may be easier. For instance, when a child understands that he will be fed, taken to the potty, talked to....is in a safe place.... he will feel secure; thus he will be happy.
I have found that as a mother of four and the lead in a 3 yr old preschool room it is key to learning to manage stress. All the children as well as coworkers feed off of your emotions and attitude.
I think stress is a state of being that can be changed by the choices we make to change it; by renewing our minds. Being stressed out is a choice and if we allow it to take control of our thoughts and actions, then we will stay in the state of being controlled by it. Joy is a choice as well. What choice will we make, is the question.
I don't believe stress is a state of being because any thing can unexpectedly come up in your life and cause it, like your car breaking down,lost of a job,death it can be anything.
While there are lots of things which can cause stress, they do not affect all people the same. One event may cause one person to totally break down; while the same event is taken in stride by someone else. The events in and of themselves do not cause our internal state of stress, it is the how we process what has happened, our skills in dealing with what has happened, our interpretation of what has happened, plus our own resiliency and self-efficacy
Recently I've been going through a lot of stress. I noticed that when I get in big groups of people my hands start sweating REALLY bad and my entire body tenses up. It's really frustrating and I can't wait to get away. I never really understood why it was always happening then I realized it only happened when I got really stressed and uncomfortable. Which usually happens when I get around big groups of people or people I don't know. Its amazing how your body starts to tell you things before you understand. I haven't learned how to make it stop yet. It sucks having to shake sweaty hands.
I guess my two cents would be that how well I personally deal with everyday stresses in daycare or other places depends on how well things are going in my relationships and the expectations of me by others. When I feel I have given everything and I am not getting anything back from anywhere I have a low tolerance and ability to handle new stress. It's like each of us having a jar which needs to be full or at least partially full to cope, and each time you help others and give something of yourself to others it diminishes what is in your jar. Your jar fills when others show appreciation, or help you out when you need it, or just when you take time to help yourself or allow yourself some "me-time." It is something you have to figure out for yourself, depending on your personality, and also your resilience and self-efficacy, as already stated. When you feel you have done something well, and that you can face new challenges with courage and strength, your jar will be fuller. When you feel you are unable to accomplish what you would like, your jar diminishes. It is a fine line, because you don't want to lean too much on what other people think of you to make you strong, because sometimes others, even the ones you love, don't feel the need to build you up. You have to learn to become the best you can be and to be happy with yourself. I find I need love and appreciation so much that I feel defeated when I don't get it. I am trying to work on that. I know it would help me deal more effectively with everyday stresses.
I can relate and a lot of people can relate to what you say here. I know it's easier to say this that it is to fully understand it in the midst of overwhelming demand which comes at time, but when we are able to take a quite moment and step back, we often see love that we couldn't see at the time. The book "Love is Letting go of Fear" teaches some of this pretty well.
After a long day as a Day Care Provider, I find myself releaving my stress by running. It gets me out of the house for a short time and sometimes it helps me think about the day.
I too am a mom of four beautiful children, all under the age of 6. It too seems to me that we develop a tolerance for stress and with each new stress our body adapts to take on more. It is our job to give our bodies a break and manage our levels of stress through the use of breathing, relaxation, and my favorite- Yoga! I do Yoga with my preschool children at least three times a week and I think it puts us all in a better state of mind. TIFFANY GILMORE IDAHO
I agree with this statement because when I am stressed I have a physiologic response. Sometimes my boday and neck get very tense. That just makes me feel worse. But in terms of stress, like another mom commented, it really helps to exercise, whether it is yoga, a long walk, or even lifting weights.
In my personal life, the way I deal with stress is by eating!! You know how it goes, upset-eat-more upset-more eating vicious circle. In my professional life, I can't grab food, so I take deep breaths, and this does work, kinda like taking a time out for yourself. Also at preschool, I will tell the child to calm down and to breath, then we talk about what is happening and find a solution to the problem.
Thinking about my son growing up is a little stressful, which is why i chose to read this course. i'm hoping to read about some techniques to destress, also i think better understanding stress will help me deal with any hardships that may arise while parenting.
I have decided to take this class for several reasons. I am a parent, an educator, newly married, and female working in another field that is generally dominated by males. In order to better reduce my stress level, I would like to learn different techniques. I do understand the importance of REDUCING STRESS for physical and mental reasons. With all that I have on my plate, I think it is time that I look outside for assistance instead of trying to carry the weight of the world which is adding stress.
I am very excited to take this course! I feel like I handle stress pretty well with and around my kids (including daycare kids) But I know I need to improve how I handle stress around and with my Husband!
I feel stress when I come back from daycare too. I usually do something I have wanted to do that is relaxing and helps me relax and forget about the stressful day I had.
Recognizing I am getting stressed really helps me in dealing with it. I've found that playing music, using lavender & taking breaks to have "wiggle time" not only helps the kids, but it helps me. I try to mentally tie things I cannot change to a helium balloon & let it go. Since stress can alter our immune systems, coping strategies are essential where "cooties" are a daily thing.
26 comments:
Learning about stess and what causes it is a key step in reducing the effects of stress. An indiviual also needs to recognize how stress manifests in their own lives, whether it's tension in your shoulders or the urge to yell.
Over the past several years of running a daycare in my home and taking care of my three children as a single parent, I felt that I worked "well" while under stress. I recently found that what I managed to do was tolerate stress well.
A Lamaze class I took, while pregnant with my first child, taught me to breathe in through my nose and out through my mouth. That technique alone helped get me through what seemed like days of hard labor. Focus on something else, and breathe, in through the nose and out through the mouth. I would repeat this to myself, ant it worked.
So, over the years, when I get stressed I would do this, and it worked again. I could get work done, even though I was in the middle of a stressful time.
However, what I didn't realize was that other areas of my life were suffering while I was focused on the actual matter at hand.
I now try to stop stress before it happens by keeping a joyful and playful attitude. The kids and I will sing short and silly, but fun songs and liven up in a positive manner. Or, we simply don't worry about things not being perfect, like being exactly on time for lunch, or naptime. It's ok if we're not sleepy, we don't have to fall asleep at naptime, as long as we're quiet so others who want to sleep, can sleep.
Who knows where to download XRumer 5.0 Palladium?
Help, please. All recommend this program to effectively advertise on the Internet, this is the best program!
Once the physical needs are met then the social interaction may be easier. For instance, when a child understands that he will be fed, taken to the potty, talked to....is in a safe place.... he will feel secure; thus he will be happy.
I have found that as a mother of four and the lead in a 3 yr old preschool room it is key to learning to manage stress. All the children as well as coworkers feed off of your emotions and attitude.
STRESS IS CAUSED BY PRESSURE AND/OR ANXIETY WHICH CAN RESULT FROM THE DIFFERENCE OR DISSORANCE BETWEEN WHAT A PERSON HAS CONTROL OVER.
god is my stress reducer
stress is a common thing in my house, I am excited to learn how to manage it.
Katie Bowman
Donn I work with a lot of stress out people, I can handle stress very well
The best way to deal with stress is first giving all your problems to God and then praying and reading the Bible. It really helps lift the stress
I think stress is a state of being that can be changed by the choices we make to change it; by renewing our minds. Being stressed out is a choice and if we allow it to take control of our thoughts and actions, then we will stay in the state of being controlled by it. Joy is a choice as well. What choice will we make, is the question.
Selena
I don't believe stress is a state of being because any thing can unexpectedly come up in your life and cause it, like your car breaking down,lost of a job,death it can be anything.
While there are lots of things which can cause stress, they do not affect all people the same. One event may cause one person to totally break down; while the same event is taken in stride by someone else. The events in and of themselves do not cause our internal state of stress, it is the how we process what has happened, our skills in dealing with what has happened, our interpretation of what has happened, plus our own resiliency and self-efficacy
Recently I've been going through a lot of stress. I noticed that when I get in big groups of people my hands start sweating REALLY bad and my entire body tenses up. It's really frustrating and I can't wait to get away. I never really understood why it was always happening then I realized it only happened when I got really stressed and uncomfortable. Which usually happens when I get around big groups of people or people I don't know. Its amazing how your body starts to tell you things before you understand. I haven't learned how to make it stop yet. It sucks having to shake sweaty hands.
Try some of the things mentioned here: http://www.childdevelopment.me.uk/Stress_Management_4_Childre.html
I guess my two cents would be that how well I personally deal with everyday stresses in daycare or other places depends on how well things are going in my relationships and the expectations of me by others. When I feel I have given everything and I am not getting anything back from anywhere I have a low tolerance and ability to handle new stress. It's like each of us having a jar which needs to be full or at least partially full to cope, and each time you help others and give something of yourself to others it diminishes what is in your jar. Your jar fills when others show appreciation, or help you out when you need it, or just when you take time to help yourself or allow yourself some "me-time." It is something you have to figure out for yourself, depending on your personality, and also your resilience and self-efficacy, as already stated. When you feel you have done something well, and that you can face new challenges with courage and strength, your jar will be fuller. When you feel you are unable to accomplish what you would like, your jar diminishes. It is a fine line, because you don't want to lean too much on what other people think of you to make you strong, because sometimes others, even the ones you love, don't feel the need to build you up. You have to learn to become the best you can be and to be happy with yourself. I find I need love and appreciation so much that I feel defeated when I don't get it. I am trying to work on that. I know it would help me deal more effectively with everyday stresses.
I can relate and a lot of people can relate to what you say here. I know it's easier to say this that it is to fully understand it in the midst of overwhelming demand which comes at time, but when we are able to take a quite moment and step back, we often see love that we couldn't see at the time. The book "Love is Letting go of Fear" teaches some of this pretty well.
After a long day as a Day Care Provider, I find myself releaving my stress by running. It gets me out of the house for a short time and sometimes it helps me think about the day.
I too am a mom of four beautiful children, all under the age of 6. It too seems to me that we develop a tolerance for stress and with each new stress our body adapts to take on more. It is our job to give our bodies a break and manage our levels of stress through the use of breathing, relaxation, and my favorite- Yoga! I do Yoga with my preschool children at least three times a week and I think it puts us all in a better state of mind.
TIFFANY GILMORE IDAHO
I agree with this statement because when I am stressed I have a physiologic response. Sometimes my boday and neck get very tense. That just makes me feel worse. But in terms of stress, like another mom commented, it really helps to exercise, whether it is yoga, a long walk, or even lifting weights.
In my personal life, the way I deal with stress is by eating!! You know how it goes, upset-eat-more upset-more eating vicious circle.
In my professional life, I can't grab food, so I take deep breaths, and this does work, kinda like taking a time out for yourself. Also at preschool, I will tell the child to calm down and to breath, then we talk about what is happening and find a solution to the problem.
Thinking about my son growing up is a little stressful, which is why i chose to read this course. i'm hoping to read about some techniques to destress, also i think better understanding stress will help me deal with any hardships that may arise while parenting.
I have decided to take this class for several reasons. I am a parent, an educator, newly married, and female working in another field that is generally dominated by males. In order to better reduce my stress level, I would like to learn different techniques. I do understand the importance of REDUCING STRESS for physical and mental reasons. With all that I have on my plate, I think it is time that I look outside for assistance instead of trying to carry the weight of the world which is adding stress.
I am very excited to take this course! I feel like I handle stress pretty well with and around my kids (including daycare kids) But I know I need to improve how I handle stress around and with my Husband!
I feel stress when I come back from daycare too. I usually do something I have wanted to do that is relaxing and helps me relax and forget about the stressful day I had.
Recognizing I am getting stressed really helps me in dealing with it.
I've found that playing music, using lavender & taking breaks to have "wiggle time" not only helps the kids, but it helps me.
I try to mentally tie things I cannot change to a helium balloon & let it go. Since stress can alter our immune systems, coping strategies are essential where "cooties" are a daily thing.
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